understanding why confrontation is not possible
By Barbara Bennett from Cranbury, New Jersey on January 05, 2006 in Alcoholism Support Groups
I have a problem saying no when people ask me to do things for them when I don't want to. I also then get in situations and have to get out of them and don't have the nerve to confront them and let them know that it is impossible for me to do this. I overextend myself all the time. I am also physically sick but do not use this as an excuse as I know people that are much sicker and do not like to complain.
I can't confront people CALMLY but I have no problem yelling and losing my temper with people and telling them where to go.
I grew up in an alcoholic household with my Father - and He was not at all abusive - He would drink a six pack or more of beer every night and would go to sleep - never missed a day of work in his life - once in awhile he would be a little grouchy. I have an alcoholic brother who doesn't drink now but was abusive to me verbally and a couple of times physically. I have an alcoholic nephew who was always fresh to me and I always helped him. Yes I know I was an enabler and I went every weekend when he was in rehab. In fact I took him - his parents didn't. I would like to know why I can't confront people and have this fear of that and how can I correct this? Thank you. |
